Finding Peace In A Divided World

Just for today... farm photos, but a broader topic.   I'd like to speak from my heart.


 I imagine that we all have felt the chaos of the last few months (years, even) and the deep divide that seems to have split our country into two diametrically opposed sides.  It can be a daily stressor.  And, tragically, it has fractured friendships and families.   It's certainly not a new phenomenon.  No, as humans, we have been tribalistic since the beginning - and the sad thing is... it has never served us well.

I have given this a lot of thought in the last week as I read news stories that try to predict our future.  I have witnessed hate and vitriol on social media and in the news.   I am saddened by the lack of empathy that I see.   In my lifetime I have witnessed immense acts of love and kindness from both sides of the divide.  Acts of immeasurable goodness are something of which we are all capable.

So, how do we go forward?  How do we proceed?  How do we retain the best parts of our ethos - and leave the fear, the judgement, the anger (all of the negativity that weighs us down) behind us?

To me, the answer lies in compassion.  To be compassionate, we must realize that every single human being walks their own path.  In essence, our paths feel solitary because no one walks the exact same path.

We each experience the world differently - through separate eyes - our personal stories shaping our beliefs and our biases.  In our desire to have companionship, we seek out those with similar ideologies because, in doing so, we gain community and a sense of belonging.  Our shared ideologies give us the sense of being part of a tribe, and, in order for us to feel secure in that tribe - we fortify ourselves with dogmas, philosophies, and theologies that confirm our biases and beliefs.   It doesn't take long before an "us versus them" mentality takes hold and we forget that we share a collective experience with all of humanity - not just half of it.  In the end, we lose our compassion. 

I'm not saying that we all need to agree - disagreement is good... it helps us to grow, compromise, and move forward.  What I am saying is that we can never forget that we are more alike than we are different.  I know that I have written those words many times before, but, now more than ever we need to truly take them to heart.  We do not understand another person's path unless we have walked in their shoes.  Of course, there are those who, for some reason, are devoid of empathy or compassion - those are things we cannot change.  Luckily, those souls are few.

So, how do we proceed?  How do we walk forward merging our separate paths into one compassionate experience? 

For myself... I will strive to practice empathy (listening to diverse perspectives and trying to understand others' experiences.)  

I will foster self awareness by recognizing my own biases and emotions. 

 I will cultivate mindfulness by focussing on the present moment with a concentration on gratitude for that moment.  For me, Nature certainly helps with this goal!

 I will try to always engage in respectful dialogue, discussing differences constructively.  I will embrace kindness, making it the goal of every interaction.  

I will practice humility by understanding that my own beliefs and biases, though right for me, may not be right for everyone else.  

Lastly, I will maintain my inner peace through positivity (releasing negativity through forgiveness),  meditation, the serenity of nature, an appreciation of life's beauty, and the reminder that peace begins within.

I dream of a world in which we celebrate our differences - with an understanding that we are each a tiny, but important, part of something much greater than ourselves.  I dream of a world that allows each person to express their unique individuality in an atmosphere of acceptance and inclusion.  I dream of a world in which our collective works together to elevate every single individual - where kindness and compassion are the gifts that we give not only to others but to ourselves, as well.  

I dream of a healthy, harmonious, flourishing Earth that cradles a healthy, happy, loving humanity.

I am grateful for all that we share here, in this safe space, with each other - no matter our different perspectives.  I am pretty sure that we agree on more than not.  Sending love from the farm!

Comments

Karla said…
I loved this post, Bev. Celebrate the differences, develop more self awareness and compassion. These are healthy ways to offset the heavy and sometimes overwhelming negativity. If I try to think of this too broadly, it feels like it's too big to change. But I've been taught that small things done with great love CAN effect change.
Thank you for this thoughtful post, it is stressful & hurtful having a schism in a small family group (sisters). I will try harder to follow your guidance on traveling the path back to forgiveness and love.
Anonymous said…
No words, dear, dear cousin. Kindness is MAGIC, Joan told Derek.
Kindness is MAGIC.
Kathy S said…
Beautifully and eloquently stated and I agree 100%.
Anonymous said…
Thank you for your comments. They are a balm to the soul. And, as one of my favorite John Lennon lyrics goes...

You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
Lynne said…
We are blind if we do not recognize our differences.
I made the decision to not get myself into an arguments.
Early on I recognized that some of my friends and family were not on “my page.” I was up front with a dear friend, and said I am sure you are happy and
she responded with her joy. And then she told me all her reasons why, and
I listened. And she said, how about you, and I said, shocked. I guess that
pretty much stopped our conversation. No way can I change her mind or she change mine. And we each recognized that of each other. i decided I would not discuss this after saturday the ninth. Seeing television pictures of a red United States of America convinced me I was in the minority. I have never thought of myself as a “party person”. And instead, my vote goes toward what and who I like. At this point It all seems quite daunting . . .
Bee Haven Bev said…
It is my feeling that we are have the right to dislike those in power, regardless of who may be in power.However, it saddens me when that dislike is then translated into a hatred for our fellow citizens.
Marcia LaRue said…
I will be making banana pumpkin bread today ... with chocolate chips thrown in ... and will share with my neighbors on my floor!
We don't all vote the same, however, we all get along!
Grandma Zee said…
Thank you for timely and welcome post. I belong to a family with many on different paths. But we love and respect each other and our differences. We get along, we have family gatherings and we have more in common than differences. My grandchildren are loving, caring, compassionet and do much good. We live in tumultuous times and we must show compassion, help each other, and strive to take care of all those we come in contact with if possible. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family, We all have much to be grateful for.
littlemancat said…
Beautifully said and felt, just not there yet,Bev. Thanks for the inspiration.
Mary
EDGAR C. BEARD said…
LADY...YOU NAVE NAILED IT...IT IS SO SAD WHEN DIFFERENCES DIVIDE AND DESTROY OUR LOVE AND COMPASSION FOR OTHERS...NO ONE ALWAYS AGREES W/EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS...BUT...WE MUST STRIVE TO BE CARING AND CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS WHO HAVE THE SAME RIGHT FOR THIER FEELINGS AS WE DO... LIFE IS DIFFICULT ENOUGH W/OUT AND
WE MUST BE KIND...YOU HAVE DELIVERED A POWERFUL MESSAGE W/SOME OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PICS..AWESOMELY BEAUTIFUL BACK GROUND...THANK YOU FOR THE PICS AND THE MESSAGE OF COMPASSION AND REALIZING THE FEELS OF OTHERS IS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT..MAY GOD BLESS AMERICA !!!!!!YOU ARE SUCH A BRILLANT LADY !!! HAVE A SUPER FINE DAY !!!!!
Sue S said…
A thoughtful and compassionate post for a difficult time. Mr. Beard is so right when he wrote in his comment "realizing the feels of others is also very important."
Barbara Anne said…
Well said and may it be so the world over.
If you sew, look up the web site for I Found A Quilted Heart. No quilting skills needed, but a sewing machine is helpful.

Hugs!
This N That said…
It would be nice if everyone's heart had at least 1/3 of the caring and compassion that yours does. It might be a better world. Beautiful post .
Bless you Bev. Thank you for your beautiful post today.